Fertility Problems - That First Moment

Fertility Problems – That First Moment

Fertility problems are not always something that people consider. Children are included in the life plan of a majority of people, and it is often not until the time comes to try to conceive that the first thoughts of fertility or the possibility of being infertile are thought about.

Even during the initial stages of trying to conceive most people do not consider the fact they may be infertile, or have some kind of fertility problem.

Because of this, for many couples, the fact that they are infertile, or have fertility problems of some sort comes as an earth shattering moment. To be told there is a chance you will never naturally achieve pregnancy or a baby of your own can be dream destroying and horrifying, yet thousands of people worldwide face that news daily.

I can remember trying for our first baby for over a year. We thought this was normal, and that most couples took this long to fall pregnant. Then while talking to a girlfriend, I realized it had only taken them 2 months of trying and she had discovered she was pregnant. At that point I started to feel nervous.

We didn’t want to admit there might be problems. Back then, 10 years ago, I didn’t have internet access like I do now. These days I would just google to research what the issues might be, but all I recall about our first fears is feeling isolated and nervous, too upset to head to the library or anywhere else for that matter to research this horrible “thing” that might destroy my dreams.

We continued to try, and hoped for the best for another 3 months before going to see a doctor. We explained we had been trying to fall pregnant for 15 months with no luck and were starting to become concerned. We were sent for tests.

I remember vividly returning to the doctor and hearing the words, “at this point, it appears that there are some fertility issues we will need to address.” I just looked at my partner and tried my hardest to appear brave and not cry. I knew from that moment, if we wanted to have children that there was a fight ahead of us.

In that first moment, the first moment you realize it’s official, that having a child is not going to be easy, that IF you ever get the chance, it’s a chance you will have to fight for, 2 things happen. Your survival instinct kicks in and you become determined to prove the medical profession wrong, and your world is shattered… You really want to just give up and scream “why me?”…

How did you feel at that moment? Or are you still too nervous to go and “officially” find out? Or do you know someone who has experience that moment?

Share your experience here…..